Look Around the Room ...

"Be very careful about the people you hang around - the people that you allow into your life - and the people that you allow into your social circle. In pool, and in life... your success or failure will accurately reflect the people that you have surrounded yourself with. Remember that.

I know a lot of players - and I am sure that you have people just like this at your pool hall - that have the ability to run rack after rack after rack, solving every layout and every little puzzle on the table with relative ease ... yet when it comes to the game of life, they seem unable to get anywhere. Away from the table, they're lost, ineffective, and their lives (for the most part) they were very unstable personally, professionally, and financially. They probably started out their lives motivated and with the best of intentions - but somehow they got lost along the way down at the pool hall. That's my nice way of saying that as a result of their lifestyle - their lives - their relationships - and their finances didn't amount to squat. Despite their flashes of brilliance at the pool table against mediocre players for laughable stakes - they had gotten absolutely nowhere.

As a pool player - no matter who you are - or - how good you shoot - nowhere is always a very bad place to be. It doesn't matter whether you're there permanently - or just on vacation - nowhere is a horrible place to visit - a awful place to end up -.and an even worse place to get stuck. If you're already there - or if you think that you might be there - the best thing to do is to immediately latch on to some good sense - or something or someone positive - move forward in a straight line at a fast pace and don't ever look back.

At the age of 23, I looked around the pool room and saw 25 examples of everything I didn't want to be in 25 years. Luckily, I learned early on that there is much more to life than being able to run balls on a pool table. Think about it.

My pool hall was no different than most pool halls ... and when I looked around the room - most of the guys I saw were in their mid-late 40's - they were gambling every single day - and amazingly ... they had absolutely nothing to show for it. Most of the time, they were asking me (or anybody else they could find) to borrow money as they chased the same fifty-dollar bill that they had chased the day before.

If any of them had jobs, they were crappy jobs - low or no responsibility - low paying, one step above entry level, dead end jobs. I would learn that in some cases, they actually sought out these crappy jobs to be able to continue on with whatever bad habits they had allowed into their lives. Absolutely everything in their lives was consumed by their habits, and their habits stunted their growth in life as well as their game. None of them were successful. None of them were rich. None of them were champions.They were all trapped on an endless hamster's wheel - chasing the illusion of a big pay day that would never come.

I made a conscious decision that I would do everything in my power to not end up like that some day. I immediately latched on to some good sense - I surrounded myself with smart, successful, positive people - and I moved forward in a straight line at a fast pace and I never looked back.

I strongly caution you against being consumed by the game of pool to the point where you sacrifice your education, your relationships, and your professional progress. I believe that anything that is good will enhance the quality of your life. If the game is causing problems in your life - then I believe that is your signal to take a step back and reevaluate your priorities. It is okay to have the game high on your list of priorities - but remember - life, family, friends, education, career ... they must come first. Those are the things that will sustain you when the balls start looking fuzzy." ~Blackjack's Random Thoughts, 12-08-2007, Mental Game Mastery.

LEARNING HOW - WHY - BECAUSE - and HOW TO KEEP IT ALL IN PERSPECTIVE

Blackjack's Random Thoughts                                                                                                      Saturday, September 20, 2014.

LEARNING HOW - WHY - BECAUSE - and 

HOW TO KEEP IT ALL IN PERSPECTIVE

My pool playing knowledge flows  from 4 major arteries ...

How
I learned "how you do it this way" from Cisero Murphy. At that point in time, I knew almost nothing - and most of what I knew was wrong - incomplete - bad habits - and misinformation. I will always be appreciative of the way Cisero was generous with his time - generous with his knowledge - generous with his guidance - and generous with his friendship. He was never "easy" on me. I didn't understand that at first - in fact, for a time I resented it - but I have been immensely blessed because of it. I learned a lot about pool - but I also learned a lot about the importance of patience, dedication, commitment, perseverance - and how to apply all of that not only to pool - but to life.

Why

I learned how to take "how you do it this way" and turn it into "why you do it way" from Steve Mizerak. It is one thing to know how to do something - but Steve always made a point to explain why it was necessary. The time I spent with him opened up an entire new world for me at the table. He had a way of cutting through my know-it-all-attitude with the same subtlety as a torpedo going through a paper sailboat. I learned a lot about pool - but I also learned a lot about professionalism, attention to detail, and how to not take myself so seriously in pool - and in life. 

Because

I learned how to "Why you do it this way" and turn it into "because you have to do it this way" from Cowboy Jimmy Moore. Cowboy was real big on common sense. He once told me that if I was ever at the table having trouble finding the solution - just close your eyes - take a few steps back from the table and then look at it from a broader perspective. He followed that up by saying - "Amazing things happen when you have the good sense to realize that you have to get out of your own way." I learned a lot about pool - but I also learned about keeping my cool - smiling through adversity - and how to get out of the problem and into the solution (not only in pool) but also in life.

Keeping It Simple
I learned how to take "because you have to do it this way" and turn it into "this is the simplest way" from Buddy Hall. Buddy has a way of making everything look so easy at the table. I remember him telling me that the secret to getting out was - "just stay in line and don't get caught behind anything." Easier said than done at first - but I studied his every move at the table and I asked a lot of questions. I learned a lot about pool, but I also learned about taking my time - keeping it simple - and believing in what I was doing - not only in pool - but also in life.

Putting It All Together
Somewhere along the line, their lessons, their advice, and their guidance was compounded and molded into the way that I do what I do. Today I know the importance of patience, dedication, commitment, perseverance, professionalism, attention to detail, and how to employ that without taking myself so seriously. I know how to keep my cool - how to smile through adversity - how to get out of the problem and into the solution - how to take my time - how to keep it simple - and I definitely believe in myself and what I am doing. No matter what pool or life tosses at me - I think I'm going to be OK." ~ Blackjack's Random Thoughts, March 14, 2008.